HEALING FOR THE HEART

Recently a previous post popped up in my Facebook memories of me smiling. The post was from a year ago. I looked at my smile and I remembered what I was going through at the time. My heart was broken. I was going through the process; a very slow process. I want to encourage you and let you know that broken hearts can be mended.

If your heart has ever been broken, you know that the pain can seem unbearable. If you're like me, you want to reach inside of yourself and massage the pain away. We know that, that is not possible. In my most recent experience I was more aware of the time that was needed. I was more aware of the self work that was required. It is not going to mend itself and it is not going to happen over night. When your heart is broken, as scary as it may seem, take the time to feel the pain and draw from the emotions that come with it. Allow yourself to release it; don't hold it in. Shed tears, scream, holler...but please do not hold it in. Once the initial period of pain has subsided a bit, it's time to reflect. Reflect on yourself. Have reflection moments; meditate on those moments. Get to know yourself in those quiet times. Don't be afraid to be quiet. Don't be afraid to allow the pain to surface. It's part of the process.

Establish things and routines that you enjoy or that help you to move forward. Pray daily, journal, pick up a new hobby, read a good novel, binge watch a television series or watch your favorite movie. Be certain to surround yourself; when you are ready, with people that make you feel good and that make you laugh. Remove yourself from those that will keep you in that "whoa is me" phase. Yes, it is important and okay to go through the pain, but it is not okay to have an ongoing pity party. Beware of those that are happy to see you down and want you to stay in that pitiful space.

It's true, time does heal wombs, but you have to be patient with it. You have to truly want the healing. Healing requires work. It requires steadfastness and commitment.

I went through a period of healing my broken heart for over a year. This summer the feelings tapped me on the shoulder and said, "Remember me? I'm your broken heart". The memory of pain is almost as painful as the pain itself. I told that memory that I did remember it and I was briefly saddened. I also remembered the work that I did through prayer, life coaching sessions, forcing myself to be out in the open, being around positive people and just going through the process. The most important, was when I finally relinquished the reigns and let God steer; things got so much easier. I had to let a lot of things go. I had to stop thinking that I was in control.

If you are broken hearted, it will get better. Your heart will mend. Forgive yourself for anything that you may be blaming yourself for. Forgive the other person that you may be blaming for the heartache. The pain will subside. One day, you're going to wake up and say, "wow, my heart doesn't hurt as much today". The things that triggered the pain won't trigger it as much.

Take your time just don't wallow in it. Take your time and move; don't sit in it. The word process requires some action. Take the steps that you need to heal.

God is in the healing business. He mended my broken heart and He'll do the same for you. Just ask Him and then do what He says.

The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit. Psalm 34:18

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